Dating / Working out

Are two dating websites better than one?

Things have fizzled out with Mr. Mustache.  I just didn’t feel attracted to him although he’s a very interesting guy.  So, we’re not talking anymore and won’t be hanging out either.  But we wished each other the best and parted on a positive note.

In the meantime, I’ve started chatting with a few new guys.  I have a date tomorrow with one of them.  He seems like an interesting guy, has traveled all over the world, just bought a new house, likes to refurbish antiques, and likes to bike and swim.  Which, to this runner, just makes me think that he could do two of the three parts of a team triathlon while I take care of the running part. 🙂  But I’m getting ahead of myself.  First we have to go on our date and see how things go from there.

I haven’t made any plans with the other two guys with whom I’ve been chatting yet.  One of them shares my love of whiskey, so maybe we’ll go grab a drink someplace soon.  The third guy and I have only just started chatting, so we’re still getting to know each other.  He seems very nice and hard working and likes to work out.  So, things are moving along.

Despite these newer developments, I’ve been feeling a little discouraged with the dating website.  I actually reached the end of my current list of matches the other day when I was quickly browsing through them.  I’ve never reached the end of the list before.  I felt a little out of sorts.  I was like, wait a minute, that’s…that’s it?  I mean, I know they’ll send new matches and repopulate the list, but I went through my whole list of matches and clicked “no I don’t want to meet you” a majority of the time.  That means that there were very few of my matches that I actually would consider meeting.  Kind of sad, don’t you think?

I’ve also noticed that there are many guys on the dating website who are not looking for anything serious and want to just date without commitment.  Yes, there are a lot who are looking for an actual relationship, but do they really mean that or are they just saying that on their profiles so women will contact them?  In other words, are they just saying what we women want to hear so they’ll get our attention and lure us in?  Based on some of the dates I’ve been on, I would have to say yes.  I suppose I should be flattered that several of the guys I’ve gone out with have pretty much just wanted to get in my pants from the get go and have not been very interested in getting to know me.  But that’s sooooo not what I’m looking for in a date.  Yes, I am flattered by their compliments and I work hard to make sure that I’m fit and in good shape.  But it’s a downer, ultimately, because there’s so much more to me than my appearance.

Which is why, after talking with some friends, I am considering joining one of the paid dating websites.  Of course, I’ll wait until after my date tomorrow to see how things go.  But my friends made a good point that there might be better quality guys on a paid dating website if they’re paying to be on it and actually investing something besides time.  So, by this time next week, I may or may not be on two dating websites at the same time.  I’m not looking forward to doing a whole new profile and uploading photos of myself all over again, but I think I’ll be a little more specific when it comes to what I’m looking for in a guy.  For example, I prefer a guy who does not have children and who is into fitness and being healthy.  Some of the larger guys who’ve contacted me on the free dating website who clearly don’t work out and like to drink beer while watching TV on their couches are not my type.  I’m just saying.

There’s the old saying, two heads are better than one.  I guess I’ll find out if two dating websites are better than one.  Or if it’s just going to make me more discouraged because I’ll be paying for the weirdos and douchebags this time.

Advertisements

One thought on “Are two dating websites better than one?

  1. As the saying goes, “You get what you pay for…” I find this is very true, especially with shoes! ;-). It’s worth the extra $ to get shoes that are comfy, long-lasting, and look good. Analogy??? Yes!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s